Where do I even begin? I woke up this morning with such an urgent need to get things off my mind, that I couldn’t go back to sleep, so I decided that it is time to put my thoughts into words. I have my doubts as to how many of you will read this, much less take anything away from it, but I can sure hope.
Whats with the hate?
I am blown away by the hatred and vitriol I see spewing from some of you. People whom I have respected and admired. Looked up to. Suddenly, ya’all got me wondering why I had so much respect and admiration. I am not picking on one side. Good, intelligent people, from both sides, are making complete asses of themselves. I just want to take a minute to express to you how you look from the perspective of someone who is not taking either side, because I gotta tell you, Left? Right? It doesn’t matter, you are all acting like ugly, judgmental fools. Blind to the toxicity that you are spewing in the name of hatred. That’s right. I called you toxic. Can you say that it isn’t true?
How much hate have you spewed with righteous indignation? Just so you know, Its ugly. Really, really ugly. Both sides. UGLY!
So where do I even begin with this? I am not trying to change anyones mind here. I just want you to get a glimpse of the impression you are making.
Where do I start? The right? The left? Covid? Division? I could write a whole book on this matter.
I guess I will start with my people. The empaths. At least, the ones who are quick to claim the title, but slow to understand what it means. So you pick up others energy huh? Then of course you are aware that the energy we carry, transfers to those we contact. Some of you are out here calling yourself empaths in the same statement you are spewing hate in. Here is a little secret. If you are spewing hate, then you are not a very healthy empath. An empath is someone who supposedly has the ability to show EMPATHY. This means placing yourself in someone else’s shoes for a minute and trying to understand what they might be going through. Lets look up the definition of Empathy, shall we? According to Oxford Languages it is as follows…
Empathy: The ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
How many of you claim the empath title? Are you judging others? Bullying? Spewing hate? If you are so keen to pick up others energy, why then, would you choose to put this energy back into the world? How can you call yourself a lightworker, while putting so much darkness out there?
I have used it before, and I will use it again. The best example I have is road rage, but it applies to every single aspect of life. So a guy cut you off this morning huh? How did you respond? Because it is our own actions we need to be worried about. Not the actions of others. Were you kind? Did you tap your brakes and give him a little space? Or did you lose your mind, start cussing him out and flipping him the bird? Ya’all remember where this lesson goes yet?
Lets start with best case scenario. You gave him a little space. Took a minute to send him some good thoughts. Had a moment to spare a quick prayer that everything is ok in his life. Took a second to process the thought that maybe he is having an emergency. Maybe he is having a really bad morning. Maybe, he just made a mistake, like I am sure you have done a few times in your life too. Heck, there is even a possiblity that you were just tooling along in his blind spot and are at least partially at fault for getting cut off.
Or did you get angry. Judge him. Cuss him out. Hand him your peace and joy to keep for the day. Did you flip the bird and scream at him? Did you lay on your horn? Did you assume the worst about him and let your rage fly? How did that feel? Was it a good feeling? Did it increase your joy? Or the light that you put out in the world? Or did it just make you ugly? Are you going to work to spew that hatred in a mad rant to your coworkers? Oh so nice of you to dump that ugly, righteous energy on them. So, do you think your ugly spewing affected the man who cut you off? Or do you think maybe he was just too preoccupied to hear you, and the only person whose day it ruined was yours? You see, trying to control others will never lead to joy, and it will cause disappointment every single time.
Which leads me to masks. Are you walking around shaming people who aren’t wearing them? As if you know their story and health history? Are you assuming they are just as healthy as you are and that they are just selfish for not wearing their mask? What if I told you that I think you look selfish, for expecting everyone to have the exact same needs and perspective that you do. What if I told you that trying to control others is selfish and that if we want to find happiness in ourselves, that is the first behavior we have to ditch. What if I told you that you will continue to be miserable, as long as you continue to have expectations that others should behave exactly like you think is right?
And since we are talking about what you think is right, lets just go there. Who made you the almighty judge of character? Who made you the “right” one and everyone else “wrong”? What makes you so confident that you are just that morally superior to others that your opinion is the right one, and there is no reason to try to hear another perspective? Are you so sure of yourself that you know with 100% certainty that you stand on the moral high ground? And by whose measurements? Oh yeah. Yours.
So now that we have addressed moral superiority, lets talk about the upcoming election. Or, the hatred coming from both sides, to be more accurate.
Lets just call a spade a spade. Both candidates are morally reprehensible. We all know this. Lets talk about the personality required to have a desire to lead an entire nation. Its not one that most of us possess, or even understand for that matter. It is a power hungry, manipulative type of personality that looks to be in control of an entire nation. One who will do whatever it takes to get to the top. Seems that both sides are hellbent on convincing the world that their candidate is the less corrupt option, but here’s the thing, they are both corrupt. They are both morally reprehensible. The thing is, I hold the average person to higher standards. Ya’all are lowering yourselves to their standards. Ya’all are name calling, bullying, spreading hate every chance you get. Some of ya’all are wasting your precious joy just looking for more ammunition to hate with. People I have considered intelligent and educated have lowered themselves to standards of name calling, and the garbage coming from your mouths makes me think that you are as about as mature and rational, as those two children I watched bicker on stage the other night. You don’t seem to see that you are acting exactly like they are. You are being just as ugly as the person you are hating on is, except they are politicians. We expect ugly from them. But here is the thing. They are winning. All of them. And we are losing. They have successfully divided us. We cant see eye to eye with loved ones and it is costing us precious relationships, over what? A few years of a president that half of us (or more) cant stand. Is it worth losing people you have loved for a lifetime? So, next time you are attacking one of the candidates, and spewing your hatred, it might help to look at your words and decide if anything constructive or positive can come from them. Are you calling names (the orange man comes to mind) or judging a demented old man who is being taken advantage of by his party? Since when is elderly abuse funny? Since when is name calling anything more than juvenile? How are any of these things constructive or working to better our world? How are these things working to fix what appears to be a broken system? How is your hatred making a difference today? Is it adding light to peoples lives? Or just increasing the hate and division that they encounter today? Do you want to be remembered as someone who spread hate, division, and bullying? No? Then stop doing it.
We cant change others. Anyone who has had one single speech class in college knows that changing someones moral conviction is next to impossible. I know as humans, we still try, but I wonder why we think hatred and ugly bitterness will be an effective tool for changing peoples minds? It isn’t. Instead, it makes them feel judged, and more inclined to get defensive and dig in their heels. Less inclined to hear your words and consider them.
We are all human, which means we are all going to make mistakes, we are all going to have unique points of view, and we are all going to continue to grow and evolve with time. That means, that you just might change your mind on one issue or another as life shows you different lessons. We have all done it. We have all grown and wondered what the hell we were thinking at some point or another, so we all know that it happens, and it happens to all of us. Consider, for just one moment, that you are not aware of every single detail. That you don’t have all the perspective someone else may have, and they cant see all the things that gave you the perspective you have. Every person has a reason for their convictions. Many of those reasons, you have no clue about. What gives you the right to just assume that your convictions are more important than theirs? That they are wrong or ignorant if they don’t have the same convictions as you? I hear all this talk about being on the wrong side of history. Who determines which side is the right side? All I can think when I hear this is that I am more concerned with being on the right side of morality than history. In my experience, if it isn’t coming from love, then it is the wrong side of morality.
I know that this is going to make a lot of people defensive. I know that it is going to make many people angry. I implore you to take this moment to reflect on that defensiveness. What made you defensive? Anger is a secondary emotion. It happens because of a primary emotion. Did I touch a nerve? If I did, then I probably wrote this for you. What are you putting out there? Hate, vitriol, and ugly? Or love, light, and empathy? Because you are perpetuating that energy. You have the choice if you will add more divisive bullying and ugliness to our society, or will you choose to set your hatred aside and rise up. Rise up and be the light. Be the change. Be the change in a constructive and positive way. It is possible, to be constructively critical, you know. Petty name calling and bickering is going to create a change that none of us want. It is going to backfire. It is dark and ugly, and in no way putting more love and light out there.
Today I beg of you, my beloved friends and family, to look at yourself, and decide if you are creating more joy and love in the world, or if you are multiplying the hate and judgement that there is already too much of?
When I see you spewing your judgement and hate, I don’t admire you. I don’t look up to you. I don’t want to be like you. I don’t even find much respect for you in that moment. I certainly am not going to change any moral conviction I have, based on negative and destructive “arguments”. I suspect I am not the only one. If you want to change my mind, better start looking for educated information and facts presented calmly and in an unbiased manner, because your anger and hate just show me that your arguments are based in emotion, rather than logic and fact. You can feel free to come at me, but I wont argue with you. I refuse to be pulled into that ugliness. This post is meant to be food for individual thought. I am not looking to discuss your negativity with you. I am asking you to look within and decide if you are one of the people spewing the ugly, bullying, name calling vitriol, and if you are, is that how you want the rest of us to think of you? Because if so, its working.